Does he always leave the toilet seat up? And why can’t she stop hanging her bra in the shower? Maybe you are fighting over the brand of toilet paper or whether it was you or him who left the top off the toothpaste. These are some pretty silly things to fight about, right? Yes, but if you find you and your significant other arguing over little things all the time, you may have some underlying issues that need to be addressed. No matter what your issues are, couples counseling can actually really help you both.
Why Should We Do Couples Counseling?
So, what are some of the signs that you need couples counseling? There are many reasons and the main one is that you want to be happy. Together. You are sick of fighting or tired of not being able to talk to each other without arguing. Maybe you are just lonely even though you both live in the same house and see each other 10 hours a day. Here are some of the most common reasons you should try couples counseling:
Arguing About Nothing
If you and your partner are finding it harder and harder to be in the same house together without bickering and arguing about everything, it can be a struggle just to be around each other. You used to be able to tell him anything, you were best friends, and now you get nervous just from seeing him, and not in a good way.
Lack of Interest in Being Romantic
When was the last time you two held hands or put your arms around each other? Has it been a while since you two actually kissed each other? Maybe you have just been too “busy” or “tired” to have sex? If you and your partner are not feeling romantic toward each other anymore, it is time to talk to someone.
Treating Your Coworkers Better Than Your Spouse
We all do it. Fake a happy voice to talk to someone at work or at the grocery store. But, does your happy voice ever happen when you are talking to your significant other?
You Rarely See Each Other Even Though You Are Both Home
If you are both watching the same program on television, but in different rooms, you may need therapy. Are you avoiding each other or just do not care?
When You Compare Your Spouse to Others, Yours Always Loses
Does it seem like your friend’s husband is perfect compared to yours? Is your neighbor a much better wife than yours? Are you unable to remember why you got together in the first place?
Does she screen your calls or go through your phone history while you are in the shower? Does he get mad when you want to go out with your friends? Are you two having a hard time trusting each other?
Lack of Communication
When was the last time you two had a good conversation? Not just “how was your day?” or “what is for dinner?” A real conversation consists of both of you talking and actually listening to each other. Even if you have been together for 50 years and you think you have nothing to talk about, you need to communicate. Every day.
If you and your significant other are having any of these issues or you are just unhappy and think therapy can help, a couple’s counselor may be a life saver. Or a marriage saver. If you want to try online therapy, click here and get started now.
Written By: Marie Miguel